Fail?
Lets put this in context. Usually in life, if you live with good effort, the result can often be poor. If you only do a good job, you could lose your job. If you’re only a good guy for your wife, the first great, or excellent guy that comes along will turn her head. Especially after many years of wedded bliss with a “good” guy. Whether at work or in your marriage even a great job only results in good rewards. Even at excellence, there is still another level. A level of effort that has all the rewards, heroism.
In the Olympics, all of the most excellent athletes in the world compete for hundredths of seconds. To even be on the podium, you need to be outstanding, beyond excellence. Even if you were excellent you could finish in tenth place. And if you’re good, you weren’t even there to compete. Isn’t it possible that life is very similar?
Isn’t it possible that your wife wants more than just a good guy? Most women want a guy who takes initiative in life. A guy who sweeps her off her feet. Guys, if you want her to be crazy about you all over again, this is where it’s at. Heroism. Heroism in marriage.
Don’t Fail
Step up and be the man she wants you to be. Marriage can be tough. We all know, it is tough. Especially as the time passes. Before you know it you could be stuck, going through the motions. If this is you, it’s time to crank it up. If you don’t, you will get bored and frustrated. Your wife will get bored faster.
Have you ever heard anyone say “I’m a good guy, why did she leave me?” Women need their knight in shining armor to be there. Every day. When you’re with her and when you’re not. At home, with the kids and at work. Especially in the little things.
Five Ways to Be Better Than Good
1. Awaken Your Potential For Greatness: You were made to be something great. Not average. Not mediocre. Great. Decide to start each day with a question. A question for yourself. What ways can I be better today? What would my wife change about me if she could? Or come up with your own and use it, daily.
2. Destroy Pride and Uproot Selfishness: Pride is the silent killer. Pride is “all about me!” As soon as you think you’re great, you better think again. The focus needs to shift away from you and your needs. Selfishness is met with strong defense every time. Decide to be a man of service. What can I do to serve my wife more today? In what areas could she really use my help?
3. Face All Challenges With Valor: All day we face challenge. Just getting up sometimes can be a real pain. A man living with heroic courage will face any challenge, fear or impossible situation with confidence. He knows that no matter the challenge, with the right intention and focus, anything is conquerable. Decide to face every challenging situation with the confidence of a war hero.
4. Live Beyond Excellence: Being a good guy is not going to be enough. Even a great guy is barely there. At excellence, there is still room for improvement. We must live heroically, beyond excellence.
5. Commit to Heroic Improvement: Maybe you have decided to make a few changes. Great! Now, it’s time to commit to heroic improvement. This is improvement with intention. Daily effort. Struggling to constantly grow. If you are not moving forward, you’re sliding backwards. Ask yourself, how can I make sure that I improve daily with a real intention to be better?
